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Da Capo II To Heart 2 Animeme

1. Hinano April 11th, 2008
   12:03 CDT

   Hang in there!
   Everyone's time will come eventually :3
2. Ryan A April 11th, 2008
   12:04 CDT

   I can sympathize here. Wondering these same things, I usually doubt my environment. At school, I ride my bicycle, so I see a lot of people, but out of all those days, I've only turned around once, and with good reason. (Unfortunately, I was shut down by this tigress. ~.~)

   Lately, I ride with vigor and have not felt the need to turn around. Even thinking, "I should go meet that person" only happens for a second and I am back to riding hard.

   It is cyclical and evading, like trying to turn the ice, by turning the glass of water; evasive. If you feel it is time, don't let the chances evade you! I fear luck can only get you part of the way, at some point, you must step in the moment.

   Choose your moments wisely ^^ Even this ronery feeling is not alone.
3. meganeshounen April 11th, 2008
   13:14 CDT

   Thought-provoking.

   Going solo for the moment does seem nice… for now. Until that realization of having nobody to spend your time with creeps up your back like a slow-but-sure-moving moss on a rock. I guess love just comes differently to people. To some, it's like BAM, you're hit with Cupid's arrows, and you have someone you can give to and get affection from. Then again, there are some of us that either actively run away from the feeling (due to fear of being hurt/hurting others) or just plain passive about "that whole love thing".

   And about that part on "the horror of being single once a year"… I think for single people, they experience that "horror" every single day of their lives. It's just that the environment (read: possibly the media) keeps showing to your face all the other couples that you don't normally see everyday…

   I don't know if this one's relevant, but I just want to ask this: "What do you do… to fill the gap left by a passion so great, that disappeared so fast?" ^_^;
4. bluemist April 11th, 2008
   14:49 CDT

   Minna, arigatou!
   (okay that sounded like Densha Otoko, lol).

   I know that love just can't be served to me like free food in a silver platter, but the realization of that same fact is loneliness in itself. Someday I hope to get this out of my system, but for now…

   "What do you do… to fill the gap left by a passion so great, that disappeared so fast?"
   Umm… eroge?

   …but seriously, you divert yourself to other interests.
5. Koll April 11th, 2008
   15:44 CDT

   From one single guy to another, and I will speak bluntly …

   What did I do for Valentine's Day? I worked until 9 PM for a project crunch. The guy who I was working with stayed at the company way past me, but at least had a wife who understood that things at work had to get done. Another married coworker told me that his wife got pissed the last time he got Valentine flowers for her because it was a waste of money. My boss's wife was working in another country (and still is). And most of the single guys in my company who aren't dating didn't even know it was Valentine's Day.

   Bottom line: Valentine's Day is overrated.

   As for being single, "lonery" stems from the feeling of being unloved. Can you say that for a fact that you know your family don't love you? How about friends? I can understand if you don't have family around, but if you don't have friends, then I highly recommend you get close up shop here and get yourself out there to meet people. Easier said than done, but there are always avenues to explore. You can visit eroges anytime you want. Just not in front of your new gf though, I'm pretty sure that won't go well.

   I can write a book on this, but I'll leave the last thing as this: I see loneliness in couples as well. Getting hitched doesn't necessarily mean that feeling will go away. You'll need to confront that feeling first or else it could actually hamper your future relationships, friends and whatnot. So take your time and spend it finding the right girl, while you sort your emotions out. Otherwise, you could end up doing the wrong thing out of desperation.
6. Ronin April 11th, 2008
   19:21 CDT

   Ah, I share your sentiments. Being lonely does have its perks, but these are often on a short-term run.

   I often have this lingering notion that that "someone for you" is but a man's wish fulfillment fantasy. It takes a little bit of effort to do just that, but for everything else, well… have guts!

   Hang in there!
7. TheBigN April 11th, 2008
   23:03 CDT

   Then again, there are some of us that either actively run away from the feeling (due to fear of being hurt/hurting others) or just plain passive about "that whole love thing".

   I'm in the latter category. I've never really been in love before, and I'm not pining for it, but I know the issue will come up eventually. For the moment though, there's more important stuff on my mind at the moment. :3

   But don't let those feelings of loneliness drag you down to much. Keep optimistic.
8. Koji Oe April 12th, 2008
   12:54 CDT

   Love between man and a woman is overrated. There are many kinds of love out there.

   The problem is everyone thinks there is someone special out there just for them or they're destined to get married or something. I don't think we're all meant to get married or have these kinds of relationships.

   If this were true, then there wouldn't be as many messed up relationships, divorces and what not.

   That is just my 2 cents and it really does get me angry when people are like, "Whaaa whaaa I'm ronery. No one loves me." Get a grip and do what you can right now. Not saying that is what you are doing here.
9. Ronery - A rebuttal to bluemist’s case « クロス† チャネル April 12th, 2008
   14:15 CDT

   [...] to bluemist's case 12 04 2008 I read bluemist's interesting article on being ronery recently. He gives more questions than perhaps his own answers. Despite this, I have some rather [...]
10. bluemist April 12th, 2008
    15:15 CDT

    You guys speak truth, in that ronery-ness does not end when you attain this kind of love. I see it as different phases/walls/challenges in life that one has to endure. So supposing I break this wall and find that special someone, it doesn't end there, because whole new sets of walls are in your way yet again, like responsibilities, money matters, social standing etc. This cycle goes on, and that's what life is about.

    I think what's important is that as you attempt to face each life challenge, is that you are happy in other aspects of life despite the loneliness in this aspect (romantic love).
11. So ronery, but I has an answer! « orz - SWISS CHEESE PORN April 13th, 2008
    1:35 CDT

    [...] Rebuttal to Koji Oe and bluemist [2] Job 1:21, KJV [3] Ecclesiastes 4:8, NIV [4] What A Friend We Have In Jesus, Joseph Medlicott [...]
12. haderach April 13th, 2008
    3:16 CDT

    Valentine's day is nothing compared to new year's eve… each year, that day is a nightmare for me.
    One thing that always annoys me is that even the stupid and not good looking men have a women in their life. But us "otaku" who are soo nice and smart are always alone.
    Screw life, and if there is a god, "he" must be really…
13. Impz April 13th, 2008
    17:12 CDT

    It's 1/3 luck, 1/3 social networking and 1/3 chemistry. It's not like being nice and smart will garner you a girl on the spot if you do not bother to socialize and meet a girl just for you.

    Being ronery is perhaps something that everyone experiences. However, different people have different tolerances. Some cope with it better and have other things to fill in that void. With that, they find happiness, maybe a greater happiness.

    Find something you like to do, spend your time enriching yourself, socialize, enjoy and who knows what will happen next.
14. usagijen April 14th, 2008
    0:51 CDT

    I have long surrendered myself to the thought of being forever single, with the mindset "if it's meant to be that I'll eventually meet that future partner of mine, then it will happen. In the meantime, I'm just going to live my life to the fullest and continue to cherish each day, being happily single~" :3

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